Wow, this week must be the week I dive into the messiness of friendships. Mostly, they aren't messy. They are simple. Granted, I suspect I am not a great friend. I am often busy, tired, or feeling antisocial which means I don't want to hang out. Not such a great friend. I have moved people, taken cakes, written cards, etc, but only sporadically. So it makes me wonder what do I want in a friend? Do I make a good friend?
What do I want: I want someone who can handle extreme positions on a variety of topics, who can chat me up at the same rate I chat, who can suggest something fun and different to do and get me to do it (I am hard to get out of the house), someone who is silly, smart and fun but who doesn't shy from the big stuff either. Someone who calls out of the blue to tell me about some movie or book they consumed and how much I would love or hate it.
What do I do (or could I do) to be a better friend: Not blow you off, schedule time with you, remember your darn birthday, bring you treats from my garden, listen to you whine about something (for a little while, until I tell you that is enough), or just spend some time with you even when it isn't uber convenient for me. Heck, I always make time for work, why not you?
Maybe someday I'll get a gaggle of friends just like I always dreamed of... or a best friend. I haven't had one of those since elementary school. I guess that is what happens when you grow up... work, family and life all take over and without proper care friends don't grow along with you.