I have noticed this trend for some time, but I didn't want to make a big deal of it. Lately, though I have gotten a bit tired of the Facebook Middle Aged Women Syndrome that I felt I had to at least bring some light to the subject. Trust me, if you are over 35 you might want to read this.
First, let me clarify, if I am your "Friend" on Facebook I may or may not know you. We may or may not really be friends. I may have met you at a conference, went to high school with you, slept with you, read your books, enjoy your art work... there are a million different scenarios to what my relationships are on Facebook. The term "Friends" is just the simplistic term that Mark Zuckerberg gave it... it doesn't really mean friends. It could have said Ooglats... and you could have 100, 328, 1,249 Ooglats - and those would be people you know, people you don't, people you wnat to know, people you just want to stay connected with... they aren't deep Ooglats... just Ooglats.
Now, because the word "Friends" is the actual lable in Facebook and not Ooglats we get into some weird Middle Aged Women behavior. Let me lay it out for you, dear reader. These have actually happened to me... all by women... all strange.
I work with you and so I want to be your friend on Facebook. Fine. I am your friend. We no longer work together, you hate me for whatever thing I did to you, so you take it out on me by de-Friending me on Facebook. Ok, I don't really care, it is just odd.
You want to be my friend in real life. We kind of know each other. I accept your Facebook request... you think we are now really friends. When you realize that we are not really friends you un-Friend me.
You stalk my Facebook and then make weird comments about things I have posted when I see you rather then on Facebook.
You stalk my Facebook for Friends and Friend them yourself... even though you don't know them. Which is fine, but a bit weird.
I un-Friend you because I am tired of pictures of your cats and you accost me at a meeting for not liking you anymore. I'm sorry. I should have just blocked you. My mistake.
You have looked at all the pictures posted of me. I know this because something that went up two years ago will suddenly have a "like" by you. Also fine, but weird.
It is the first two scenarios that create the most frustration... what I realize is that we don't have very good interpersonal skills and instead of talking to me they take it out by Friending or un-Friending me... whatever is the case.
I feel like I need a disclaimer that Friend is just a word... that Zuckerberg chose, just like "Like"... these are not real terms in the dictionary sense of the words. They are just lables to put people/ideas/things in categories. They don't mean anything. Or they don't have the meaning that Middle Aged Women seem to think they have. What bothers me is that because of our lack of interpersonal skills we are tapping into our inner Mean Girl and that is not making my world or the world a better place. Why didn't they just go with Ooglats?
Photo: My real BFF