As you can see from my last post I have run into quite a few Women Haters. Here is a quick rundown of the cast of characters throughout my life.
- Ms Z: A woman who wouldn't take me seriously until I was over 30. I was 24 at the time. This meant no raise and no promotion.
- Lady SM: A wildly egocentric artist who told me who my friends could and couldn't be.
- Lane: A woman who chose to cut off my friendship to "get ahead". She eventually got fired.
- June Cleaver: A cheery woman on the surface but a nervous breakdown waiting to happen.
- Lying Lou Lou: A fake southern belle that would lie right to your face without breaking a sweat.
- Miss Silly: A woman who was so threatened that I would find her out she held unlawful meetings with commissioners to convince them to fire me. She won.
- There of course were the unhappy actress, the unfulfilled artist who gave me a bloody nose, the vicious blond, the crazed old lady, the ADD inspired lunatic... all like a bad "who done it" novel.
Now I see that it is my Chronic Sharing Syndrome that might leave the door wide open for these ladies. That and my over aching need to please. If only I developed that stony exterior that led to mystery rather than a mouth the size of the Grand Canyon!
I just feel like life should be an open book. There are no secrets. We are all sisters. Kumbya by the fireside... only to be in tears like a 16 year old on my pillow by some nasty thing that was said or worse done behind or in front of my back.
I admit, that I need to find a way to work with these kinds of women because they seem to be everywhere, but goodness knows patterns are hard to break.
What are we doing about this? Why aren't we growing up beyond our formative school years? It seems that the opportunity of education to mold and model good behavior is lost and we are stuck with the same difficult people generation after generation. Are mean girls really insecure? If so why aren't we trying to help them love themselves if for no other reason then not becoming Women Haters.
Maybe, as Lizard Eater states, we do need The Rules. Maybe we aren't quite ready to figure it out ourselves.
I know that if men are reading this they are either unaware of this issue or they have had a wife/girlfriend cry about it to them and they just don't know what to do about it. It doesn't happen to them. Although, I am sure that they have other haters that they deal with.
So, are there any specific tips to stop Chronic Sharing Syndrome?